POTTY TRAINING FRUSTRATIONS



 



So one of the frustrations I am dealing with right is getting my daughter potty trained. It is becoming more frustrating, annoying and my patience is rather thin. She is just getting lazy and doesn't care if she pees all over herself, on the bed, couch or poops in her panties. She just lays there and it is so frustrating. She knows how to go potty when she wants to, she knows how to pull her panties down and get on the big potty but chooses not to unless she's bribed with something or if something is taken away.

She has been in pull ups now since February when she turned 3 and well she thinks their just a diaper and its okay to go in them. At home I let her run around with no bottoms on at all and she'll go on her own, however when I put her in panties she thinks their like pull ups and pees in them and poops in them. I work full time and go to school full time so my time with her isn't as ideal as most mothers who can sit at home full time and have them potty trained at the age of 2. I don't have that perfect lifestyle and depend on many others praying they are working with her as well as I am when I am not around.
I just want her to learn to go in the potty even when she has on panties. I have done the rewards, the potty chart, the taking things away and even discipline but nothing is working and my patience is wore out. Today she peed on the couch and I nearly lost my mind. I bought brand new furniture back in February with the thoughts that "peeing on the couch" was over with.

She begs to go to school, and I would love to put her in preschool however she can't go if she can't figure out how to go potty and that is not only frustrating but frightening thinking your child won't ever figure out to go potty and their stuck at home on some online school with barely any friends. She loves making friends, she loves people and it would be sad she can't go to school. My daughter has a big bladder, she goes potty or can fill up a diaper more than the normal baby or child. She has always been like that since she was born, I went through diapers more then many other moms I know. She could drink one bottle and the diaper was overflowing.
I've tried limiting her drinks at night time especially then she just wines, complains and cries cause she can't have a drink. I usually give in because if she is truly thirsty I'm taking her cup away and that bothers me.
Help me fellow moms. I'm out of options, out of patience and about to give up.
Yes I've taken her to the doctor and he just said some kids don't learn till their 5!!!!!!!!! that's ridiculous she needs to be potty trained by 5 if I plan on getting her in school.

All mothers should do this.....

So when I had my daughter I was like any new mother...scared and nervous. I was even more a nervous wreck cause of the situation I was in. However I knew one thing that every new mom feels LOVE!!!
You fall in love with that baby before meeting him or her, or grow a connection at the first heartbeat hearing, the first ultrasound, the finding of the gender you yearn for the kicks and movement. But on day that its time to push you are ready but you are so NERVOUS.....and nervous to go home with that bundle of joy. You question everything you are doing and if they don't cry you think "I got this!"

However one thing I am glad I did as a new mother is hold on to keepsakes and a journal written throughout her first year of life.
I bought a flower hard back journal and kept dates and wrote any and everything I could about her, her days, my days, her firsts, her bad days and more.
Because we are only human we can remember what we choose however as a mother we can't remember EVERYTHING about our new one and wish we could as we grow older. So I pulled her journal out the other day when cleaning out her closet and read through it. It brought me to tears. Because so many things I am glad I wrote about.
Like how hard it was for her to breath after coming home from the hospital, and her first cold and sore throat. Her bad days, her good days and family memories.
These are times her little mind will never recall for herself but she will have this journal to read when she gets older to refer back to as well.

I also kept many "first" outfits. Her first pair of shoes, her first jelly sandals, her first photo shoot outfit. Many people may say oh that's hoarding however I only takes up one bin and barely even that.
I want her to see it when she's older. I remember always wondering about myself when I was a baby and asking question and my mom or dad saying "well that was a long time ago."
I want Cintia to see the physical I want her to read and recap it as if she is there.

That first year of life for your new baby is the most important year because it is the one that becomes "so long ago"
Every mom should keep a keepsake journal of their new baby. Pictures only go so far, but writing out the day and every thing is so great to read more than any book.

I hate to think of if something were to happen to me but its also something to cherish for cintia if the worse happened.

so not only LOVE that new baby LOVE the memories you can hold onto and cherish later.